My happiness today is a result of conflict. Confused?
What do you
think? What does love look like? Real, heart-wrenching,
I-love-you-and-I-won’t-help-it love.
I think we mistake admiration for love sometimes. Don’t get
me wrong- admiration is powerful and wonderful!!!
There are so many people that I admire. And I think a good handful of people
who admire me. But a rectangle is not always a square.
Any relationship that gets close enough to use the word
‘love’, is at some point going to require communication. Love is most often
wonderful and consuming and satisfying! But love is also vulnerable.
As unfortunate or backwards as it may seem, I have come to
realize over the years that the best way to discern love is to look for the
people who are willing to address the uncomfortable.
Sometimes love is messy. Sometimes love looks like conflict.
There are times that we need to take our annoyances, set
them aside, forget them, and move on. But there are at other times comments or
actions that run a little further than pet peeve. And I think we can deceive
ourselves thinking that in love we can swallow our hurt and not address it, but
we silently build walls around that portion of our heart and close off from
that person in that area.
A mentor (in actual love) recently shared some things that
they see about me that were very difficult for me to hear. Some of them
painfully and obviously true, and maybe one or two that are misunderstandings. Feeling
misunderstood was probably the hardest part. Not going to lie- there was
crying.
But after the defense mechanism fades, and offense is
overridden, there lies this glimmer of hope in me. Let’s do this. I’m in. Because
whatever hurt there may be, or whatever misunderstandings there may be, they
are willing to bring them up.
And I cherish that beyond words.
Beyond words.
It takes serious guts to address our own hurt, or to admit
that we see something that is hindering life in a friend. And yet those friends
are out there! There really are people that not only admire us, but want to be
close to us, and will inevitably see those secret strands of imperfection. And
then the kicker- love us enough NOT to say goodbye at that point, but to
address their concerns.
JESUS!
Iron sharpens iron.
These people who have chosen to battle with me are the
people I have given highest priority in my life. (A short list: my parents, my
husband, a couple best friends, and my God.) No, I’m not just going to surround
myself with people who don’t believe in me and speak illy of me. But if someone
loves me enough to get close to me, and once I have offended, to address that
rather than run?
CHERISH! CHERISH I SAY!
It’s just Jesus through and through.
I am so thankful to be loved so well. And I have so much more to learn, but I really
do at heart want to love well.
Christ in me, the hope of glory!
In conclusion- I am happy today, because I have been working
on those things that my mentor addressed, and for the remaining
misunderstandings, I know I have another person in my life willing to get
dirty. Yay loving body of Christ!
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